Erotica…What it is…What it isn’t…

Erotica…What it is…What it isn’t…

This is what Wikipedia says about Erotica…

Erotica (from the Greek ἔρως, eros “desire”) is any artistic work that deals substantively with erotically stimulating or sexually arousing subject matter. All forms of art may depict erotic content, including paintingsculpturephotographydramafilmmusic or literature. Erotica has high-art aspirations, differentiating it from commercial pornography

Erotica and Pornography – Distinction is often made between erotica and pornography, although some viewers may not distinguish between them. A key distinction, some have argued, is that pornography’s objective is the graphic depiction of sexually explicit scenes.

But I’ll just talk about books here.  Erotic is everywhere these days.  And if it has high-art aspirations…I’m not seeing it.  Just because there is some semblance of a story line doesn’t mean it’s high-art and not porn.  After all, Fifty Shades of Grey was called Mommy-Porn.  And you can read about sexual encounters with were-animals, shapeshifters, vampires, all kinds of aliens, dinosaurs, and even…yes…wait for it…that’s right…Bigfoot. It’s all called monster-porn.

There is an author, Virginia Wade, that was making $30,000…yes, that’s thirty thousand dollars…a month with her series on human women and Bigfoot.  Shesh.  Her dad edits all her books for her, too.  ACKWARD.   And why does she write Bigfoot Erotica?  Aren’t you glad you asked?  Aren’t you even happier I know the answer to that question?  She began writing Bigfoot smut “after getting annoyed with how boring the erotica community had become.”  I’m sure the thirty thou a month didn’t hurt either.  However, it now seems that Amazon is clamping down on books about sex with cryptids.  Go figure.

I know I don’t want to read about kinky threesomes between a human woman and two shapeshifting cowboys, one a wolf and the other a black panther.  I don’t care how many different positions they can get themselves into.   I don’t want to read about these encounters on every other page either.  And I really don’t want to read about the cowboys starting to shift while they are doing the funky chicken.  Really.

Basically it’s the graphically descriptive, purple prose sex scenes that drive the story in Erotica.  Really?  Whatever happened to the plot driving the story?  Whatever happened to character development?  Like in Romance.  You know.  Good old fashioned, in Love, Romance.  Defined thusly:

Romance usually refers to romantic love, i.e., love emphasizing emotion over libido.

And then there’s this, By Elyse from Smart Bitches Trashy Books

“The best sex, at least in romance novels, is often infused with emotion, whether it’s angst or joy, and it shows the characters in a meaningful way. When it’s also hot and reflects the average person’s sexual experience without resorting to purple prose? That’s golden.”

So there you have it.  Erotica – It’s porn with a story line.  Romance – It’s a love story.

I’ll stick with the love stories and why not when there are guys like this to look at…

Joshua Gawrysiak





Joshua Gawysiak



jase dean





Jase Dean




Mads Kolkin Sarastuen



Mads Kolkin Saratuen





Bobby Creighton



Bobby Creighton



What do you think?  Would you rather fantasize about these guys…or Bigfoot.  Leave a comment.  I want your opinion.  Thanks.



Smart Bitches Trashy Books

Smart Bitches Trashy Books (SBTB)

 So, if you really love, and I mean, really, really love, all things Romance, you have got to check out this website – Smart Bitches Trashy Books.

 I have been following them for a couple of years now, mainly because the site is hilarious.  This site was started in 2005 by Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan as a place for romance readers to get together and talk about the books they liked and the ones they didn’t.  It has morphed into so much more.

 One of my favorite pages is the Bitchery Glossary.  Here’s an example or two.

 HaBO (Help a Bitch Out).  If you read a book, however long ago, that you want to read again and just can’t remember the title, this is for you.  Describe as much of the book as you can remember, you know, the absurd plot, the hero’s annoying habits, the cover that showed more of her chest than his, their unconventional names, etc.  They will put a post out there asking their audience if they know what the book is.  They claim to have a good track record for finding these books.

 TSTL (Too Stupid to Live).  This is a heroine who doesn’t have a clue.  She wanders around outside at night in her nightgown and doesn’t understand the problem with that.  Every time she looks at the hero she has ‘urges’ she can’t understand.  She unwittingly takes a job with a crime syndicate and now needs the hero’s protection

 Douche or ass-hat.  Wait…I’m trying to picture that.  Ass-hat.  Hmm…just not getting it.  This tern refers to an unlikeable hero, or a clueless hero, or a hero that is TSTL.

 In their hysterical reviews of books where either the heroine or hero, or both, are clueless and TSTL, they use a whole slew of remarkable words.  Like mighty wang, magic hoo-haa, whatthefuckery, crazysauce, mantitty.  I am working so desperately hard to get some of these words into my vocabulary.  Not being as successful as I’d like.  Much to the relief of my family.

 They review books.  Lots of books.  I wish I had that much time to read all those books.  The site posts cute Friday videos, and sometimes they have contests where you can win stuff, signed copies of books, electronics, etc.

 In fact, they have an eight day give-a-way starting today for Thanksgivukkah. So named because Hanukkah starts before Thanksgiving this year.  Today’s give-a-way is an iPad Mini, 16GB – WiFi.  So cruise the site, have a laugh or two, and enter to win.


BTW.  I have had a response in my blog about St. Umid (Beautiful Men – part 2).  You can read the comments and I will respond to them soon.


  Hunkalicious Pic of the Day


 Oh, Please.  Tell me it is illegal for these guys to even own a shirt.