Erotica…What it is…What it isn’t…

Erotica…What it is…What it isn’t…

This is what Wikipedia says about Erotica…

Erotica (from the Greek ἔρως, eros “desire”) is any artistic work that deals substantively with erotically stimulating or sexually arousing subject matter. All forms of art may depict erotic content, including paintingsculpturephotographydramafilmmusic or literature. Erotica has high-art aspirations, differentiating it from commercial pornography

Erotica and Pornography – Distinction is often made between erotica and pornography, although some viewers may not distinguish between them. A key distinction, some have argued, is that pornography’s objective is the graphic depiction of sexually explicit scenes.

But I’ll just talk about books here.  Erotic is everywhere these days.  And if it has high-art aspirations…I’m not seeing it.  Just because there is some semblance of a story line doesn’t mean it’s high-art and not porn.  After all, Fifty Shades of Grey was called Mommy-Porn.  And you can read about sexual encounters with were-animals, shapeshifters, vampires, all kinds of aliens, dinosaurs, and even…yes…wait for it…that’s right…Bigfoot. It’s all called monster-porn.

There is an author, Virginia Wade, that was making $30,000…yes, that’s thirty thousand dollars…a month with her series on human women and Bigfoot.  Shesh.  Her dad edits all her books for her, too.  ACKWARD.   And why does she write Bigfoot Erotica?  Aren’t you glad you asked?  Aren’t you even happier I know the answer to that question?  She began writing Bigfoot smut “after getting annoyed with how boring the erotica community had become.”  I’m sure the thirty thou a month didn’t hurt either.  However, it now seems that Amazon is clamping down on books about sex with cryptids.  Go figure.

I know I don’t want to read about kinky threesomes between a human woman and two shapeshifting cowboys, one a wolf and the other a black panther.  I don’t care how many different positions they can get themselves into.   I don’t want to read about these encounters on every other page either.  And I really don’t want to read about the cowboys starting to shift while they are doing the funky chicken.  Really.

Basically it’s the graphically descriptive, purple prose sex scenes that drive the story in Erotica.  Really?  Whatever happened to the plot driving the story?  Whatever happened to character development?  Like in Romance.  You know.  Good old fashioned, in Love, Romance.  Defined thusly:

Romance usually refers to romantic love, i.e., love emphasizing emotion over libido.

And then there’s this, By Elyse from Smart Bitches Trashy Books

“The best sex, at least in romance novels, is often infused with emotion, whether it’s angst or joy, and it shows the characters in a meaningful way. When it’s also hot and reflects the average person’s sexual experience without resorting to purple prose? That’s golden.”

So there you have it.  Erotica – It’s porn with a story line.  Romance – It’s a love story.

I’ll stick with the love stories and why not when there are guys like this to look at…

Joshua Gawrysiak





Joshua Gawysiak



jase dean





Jase Dean




Mads Kolkin Sarastuen



Mads Kolkin Saratuen





Bobby Creighton



Bobby Creighton



What do you think?  Would you rather fantasize about these guys…or Bigfoot.  Leave a comment.  I want your opinion.  Thanks.



All About Romance


 1. a. A love affair.

b. Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people; love:

2. A mysterious or fascinating quality or appeal, as of something adventurous, heroic, or strangely beautiful:

3. a. A long medieval narrative in prose or verse that tells of the adventures and heroic exploits of chivalric heroes

b. A long fictitious tale of heroes and extraordinary or mysterious events, usually set in a distant time or place.

4. An artistic work, such as a novel, story, or film that deals with sexual love, especially in an idealized form.

 romance book

           Such is the dictionary definition of Romance.  In real life it’s a love story.  Two people meeting, falling in love, and trying hard for happily-ever-after while overcoming misunderstandings, hardships, secret babies, kidnappers, or just plain old stubbornness.


            And who reads Romance novels.  Just about every-frigging-body.  Well not so much men – maybe.  But men make up 9% of the Romance reading public. And since approximately 75 million people read Romance every year, that’s a male readership of 6,750,000.  Wow – guys – I’m proud of ya.  But if you are female, over the age of 16, and can read above an 8th grade level – you have read Romance – whether or not you admit it.

             And just who is the average Romance reader?  Well, that would be a woman between the ages of 30 and 54 making between $50,000 and $99,900 per year.  She would likely be from the South.  Half of Romance readers live with a spouse or partner.  Forty-four percent of Romance book buyers consider themselves “frequent readers” (read quite a few romances); 31 percent are “avid readers” (almost always reading a romance novel); and 25 percent are “occasional readers” (on and off, like when on vacation).  Forty one percent of Romance book buyers have been reading Romance for 20 years or more.  (Statistics from Bowker® Market Research, Q2 2012, New Books Purchased and RWA’s 2012 Romance Book Consumer survey.) shades of grey

            And that’s just readership.  What about sales you ask?  Well yes, I have the answer to that.  Romance fiction generated $1.438 billion in sales in 2012 and is 2013 sales are estimated at $1.350 billion.  No really.  That’s BILLION, actually closing in on one and a half billion dollars – a year!  (source: Business of Consumer Book Publishing 2013)

             Here’s how Romance stacked up against other reading material:  (source: Simba Information estimates)

            Romance fiction: $1.438 billion in estimated revenue for 2012

            Religion/inspirational: $717.9 million

            Mystery: $728.2 million

            Science fiction/fantasy: $590.2 million

            Classic literary fiction: $470.5 million

            Romance beat out the next best selling category (Religion) by slightly more than double.  And that’s just sales of NEW books.  These statistics don’t take into account people who pass their Romance novels around to family, friends, and neighbors.  Nor does it account for all of us who haunt thrift stores and buy Romances by the bagful for 50 cents apiece. book-ipad








And here’s a few more statistics for you:

 Romance fiction was the largest share of the U.S. consumer market in 2012 at 16.7 percent.   (source: Business of Consumer Book Publishing 2013)

Romance was the top-performing category on the best-seller lists in 2012 (across the NYT, USA Today, and PW best-seller lists).

 Forty four percent of readers are reading in an e-book format.  But the rest of us still prefer a good old fashioned book we can hold and flip through the pages.  You know.  To go back and read the good parts.  The really good parts.  The really, really good parts.  (Statistics from Bowker Market Research, Q1 2012, New Books Purchased)

 Besides…who could resist reading a Romance when you know the hero looks like this…

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Or this…